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Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Bar-ed Pubs

Last month as the world cheered change in the form of Obama as he wrote history for being the first black President of US and we also celebrated 60th Republic day. I suspect if we the women could ever be able to celebrate our Gender- every now and then we are attacked for our sensibilities, orientations and approach towards life, not just by strangers but also from our own fathers, brothers and husbands. The way women empowerment is being talked about these days with veiled eyes I feel scared. Not all but a few amongst us are reaching glass ceilings.
The condition at lower level is still same. Why are women always held accountable for crossing the lines, walking against so called Indian Culture? Can't we have our own lives?

What happened in Mangalore was very shameful and disgraceful. The self-appointed custodians or say hooligans who attacked the pub should be tried at the hands of law. But what can be more fearful and squalid is that even today most crimes commited against women are not punishable; even the accused cannot be arrested. In this 21st century feminsm where is the freedom, we are still struggling hard to come to terms with our gender-bias. We have to follow a certain code of conduct, why is it so?

What I throughly believe is that in the pre-independence era our grand-mothers used to enjoy much liberty than us in this intolerant day and age ( my grand-father tells me how unheared these crimes against women during his time were, where ever they lived, women or their gender were never degraced in times) so what has happened now? Much before that, the heavenly world that exists in most of our mythology where Indra is the king, Rambha, beautiful dancer in his court, are always shown enjoying Madira. Today, it would be wrong to say that 'pub culture' is against Indian Ethos. Infact, a research has proved that alcohol was very much part of our culture in ancient times. The Ethos we follow have come from our ancestors and they are changed from time to time as they come in contact with different cultures and histories- shaped and reshaped. Traditions are defined by people and get modified from time to time. It is all a matter of personal choice.

Shri Ram Sene Founder said, 'Women have to be protected as the law has failed. Parents are worried about their wards going astray........................ there is no need to raise hue and cry about the incident'. Why not, Mr Muthalik?

Are not you justifying that you wanted to protect so beating up women is the part of our culture?
Every time women ventures out in male bastions, why you always raise voices, why are men allowed in pubs, clubs and bars?
why did n't you offered jobs to bar-girls who go to bars to make money out of complusion?

I really do not think if you have ever went into the interiors of our country, into the villages because if you had been then you should be able to see how women (with choice) in villages drink and enjoy hookahs and other .
If you in real sense wanted to protect and preserve, take hold of man who beat up their wives, forces them to do things against their wishes.

'The state would take some tough decisions to stop the culture of boys and girls going hand in hand to pubs and malls for drinking', said Ashok Ghelot, CM Rajasthan.

Mr CM, there are more bigger problems our nation is facing today which you people need to take care of and young people having fun is not on that list. Stop this CRASS, be sensible. we don't expect our netas to be like this. Doesn't the young politicians in Congress and other parties go partying?

Please be realistic. and

Dear Ladies,
It is more worthwhile to question, express opinions and voices than to live 'DEPRIVED' life.

Here are few lines on beautiful Indian woman:

when she is born,
you become gloomy.

when she goes to work,
you fret and fume.

when she is at home,
you call her burden.

when she marries,
you burn her for dowry.

Have you ever thought,
what life would be without her?

No hand to wipe a tear,
No one to dispel fear.

whose songs would soothe in sorrows,
and help to venture into tomorrow.

I donot want to live in the society where I have to always ask "why should boys have all the fun?"
Infact I would love to say, "Its also a Girl's world."

Monday, February 2, 2009

Barking Against the Dog

The times we are living in are quite deceptive. I hope most of you will agree me. After garnering huge success around the world, as 'Slumdog Millionaire' released in our country, I am very much aware of the hope, optimism and positivity generated by the movie.
While many of us loved the movie ( for its high-power slum drama) there are still some beating the drums against the faithful dog. I dont know why are the ones sitting on the 'hot-seat' claiming that Danny Boyale has sold the "Indian Indigence" very clevery to his western auidence.These people may have their objections, thank God we live in a democratic country.

What I want to stress here is that the negative reactions to the movie actually manifest that our 'acceptance level' is very low. I am not in anyway trying to preach anyone here. As an economy, even in these recession times, we are growing by leaps and bounds, at the same time, it is equally alarming how our youngsters are losing their jobs and what happened to Satyam is all well-known.

The way we are soft on terror, we are terribly intolerant as a society as well as ignorant about our surroundings.

65% of the total population of our country is with-in the age group of 18-35, most of the people, including me, live in posh colonies in cosmopolitan cities without realising that many in this country still goes to sleep on empty stomachs with no shelter on their heads. Think of how ascertained the ones who are born with silver spoons in their mouths, who may not have seen cows on roads, just the way we saw, who never played in mud and how astonishingly they may be watching the less-fortunate street kids when their laxury cars were flocked by these so-called dirty kids on the red lights.

I really don't know about others but nor am I ignorant about such appalling conditions that unfortunately exists in the interiors of our towns, cities, villages and country, Neither do I want my children who are not yet born to be uninformed.

Why do we have the tendency to hide? Hide-ing the abject poverty and hopelessness that the movie has beautifully explored.
A saying goes that 'a person, his character and personality is known by how well he behaves with those below him in rank, status and class. So when a movie is made about the lady who comes to clean your home and dishes, the boy who cleans the windows of your luxurious car; how they make efforts to realise their dreams and aspirations that may not be big?
and not about you- the star in their own eyes that makes you start fretting. I pity you.

If you really accept who we are, where we come from Let us atleast make an effort to do something for those less-fortunate than us.

This clearly proves how the social fabric of our country is getting weakened day by day and at the same time I was relieved to hear in one of the interviews given by the child artist who worked in the movie, how his perspective about the slum-kids changed after he lived that life himself even if it is just for reel. On being asked what he learned by working in the movie, he said, "Earlier when the slum-kids used to flok my car at the traffic jams, i used to shut the windows but after being part of the movie I now keep packs of buscuits in the car so as to give them to those kids and no more shut the windows".

This is our future generation. I believe none of us would want troubled times ahead for them like the way we are facing now.
When our kids will not know that such areas exists in our world, time is not far when their brain will drain that will not allow them to take up community services much needed even today for social-conditioning.

Inturn, how will our country rise to become the super-power (the dream we have been nuturing for a long long time); how will we atttain this dream when these less-fortunate people will not progress on the same platter as us? This will not be possible unless we see their realities with open eyes and ear.

We all talk about the role of media and cinema; how they can influence our thought-process? But have we ever wonder why our movies fails to promote reality with the exception of few?

Let me put forward here a statement given by renowed director to some newspaper, he said "What we show our viewers is a complete sham. Even a jobless man finding it difficult to make ends meet is just too well-dressed in our movies".This clearly estimates how far are our movies from the reality, grossed in their own fantasy land.

At last I would like to end it here on the note why do we take everything for pleasure, why not treasure?

To be Continued........