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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Discover 90/10

No posts from long time. This line posted by one of my friend made me sit up and take notice.
But you know how life is after all………its like running on the edge with mixed feelings- sometimes pre-viewing and most of the times imagining the worst possible outcome of every situation we are in.
Recently I was reading this article (although I got it years back from one of my cousin who happens to be the part of BPO industry)—for those of you who are not familiar with the term; its means Business Process Outsourcing;;;;if you want more ask any American and see how they twists their tongues………now no more jokes.
Else my article will get lost. Oh! Actually not mine.
The author is Stephen R Covey. The one article written by him (I bet it would change your world view or at least it would convince you to “think”.)
The piece is named “90/10 principle.
Sit back and discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (or the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane would be late arriving, which throws our work schedule off.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you.
Control how you REACT………yes you can do this with little awareness and calmness.
Let’s use an example.
You’re eating the breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for the work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30mph speed limit.
After 15 minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs in to the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minute late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why?..........because how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D”.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok sweetie, you just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns back and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. This is how the day would begin for you.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Because how you reacted. Here are some ways to apply this principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you.
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired. Getting stressed out……etc.
Why stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
Now I know what you all must be thinking. That you are aware of such situations and circumstances. When our heads cools off, we all think that the result could have been averted if………….’I would have not cried out of my throat, and many more instances.
There might not be anything new in this………..but trust me I only applied this after reading this out…..before that even I was the same old cribbing Jane who feared seeing the brighter things of life.
While you enjoy this I just sign out with the promise that there would just be no more self-imposed delays.